A couple of months ago my hubby and I were a little off kilter. We weren't connecting that weekend so well. We weren't communicating. We were a little less kind to one another. I'm not sure what our problem was, but it was not at all the way we usually treat each other. We were less patient, perhaps more tired, Shawn wasn't feeling well, and my hormones were probably askew. They get like that at different points in the month.
We have always honored each other because we hold each other in the highest esteem.
So one night we talked about what was going on. Tears streamed, talks quieted to silence as we each thought and thought, the night was going into the wee hours of the morning, and we were working through this strange & foreign disconnect. Things were much better as we kissed goodnight.
Early that morning as I started to wake up, a thought ran across my mind. The Holy Spirit was telling me something. The thought was that for the next 30 days I should write my husband a note with one reason why I like him, and one reason why I love him. The like part was necessary because that night before he said, "I feel like you don't like me right now." Wow! That was so hard to hear, but that was the message I was sending somehow.
That morning I went to the computer and wrote Day 1 of the Like/Love Plan and sent it off into cyberspace to my dear husband. He replied with excitement and wanted to join me in this venture. What a tremendous blessing this has been! I can't express enough how this transformed what was already great, into something magnificent. There will be bumps in the road, but we have to deal with them firsthand. The Bible instructs us in this.
On this very day, we each wrote Day 43 and that's 13 days beyond the "30 Day Like/Love Plan". I reminded my hubby that the 30 days were over, and he said, "I like writing them." So here we are. Writing love notes to each other on a daily basis and blessing each other's socks off.
What do you think? Would you be willing to do that? You don't have to have a hard weekend to affirm your spouse.
I pray that this has blessed you. It's not easy being so transparent, but if it honors God in the process, then I'm willing to be straight up, to be real.